She looks peaceful, but it’s an act. Boo-Boo Kitty doesn’t take kindly to being disturbed when she’s sleeping, and yes I am more than a little reluctant to take on my 9 lb black menace when she’s angry.
Don’t get me wrong. She’s not actually a candidate for My Cat From Hell. She’s just temperamental and very much a cat’s cat. She doesn’t go out of her way to fight and once she gets used to new people she is very loving, but it’s all on her terms and to get that response from her you have to respect her boundaries.
I had to learn to speak cat. I had to learn to listen to her wants and needs. I had to put what she wanted (like personal space or snuggle time) ahead of what I wanted. So if she wanted to be left alone, I learned to leave her alone and put down my knitting when she decided it was time for lap sitting and petting.
She’s taught me a great deal about unconditional love. To be with this kitty, you have to take her as she is. Some days she is grumpy and just wants to be left alone. Some days she’s a little lover: the sweetest little thing around. Most days it is somewhere in between. She is who she is, and everything she is has been completely worth the learning curve of living with her.
The thing is the whole world is pretty much the same way. If you want to get the most out of it, you need to accept it as it is; the good with the bad and everything in between. The only way to be happy in the world is to let go of your plans and take what life gives you when it gives it to you and accept it for what it is that day. Don’t try to make it conform to your time tables and your vision, because you can’t.
That isn’t to say that you can’t have goals. When Boo was a kitten, I hoped that one day she would snuggle on my lap, and she does for a while every day now, but not because I forced her to. The more I chased her and tried to catch her to put her on my lap, the faster she ran away. Eventually I just gave up the chase and I just made myself available, and eventually Boo jumped into my lap and snuggled in for a nap.
Life is like that sometimes. Sometimes you can’t make what you want happen on your time table. You just have to wait at the ready for the opportunity when it comes.